Did I mention I manage a department in an international school downtown? Sounds impressive, I know. However, it mainly consists of me listening to online dating stories of another manager, who is currently trying to get laid on a site. But that’s a whole other story.
The fact that I haven’t had any sex in months now doesn’t help when I have to work with attractive students only a few years my minor. Maybe I should be the one looking for a quickie on a site, however, thankfully I haven’t sunk so low.
Francois is obnoxious, loud, speaks in a stereotypically French accent (seems like half of it might even be put on), eyes women indiscreetly and is a pain in the ass to teach as he thinks he is above every other commoner. Homevorke? Vy should I do ze homevorke? It is like, you know, fois gras? Zey take ze meat from ze duck. Zis is how I feel ven I do homevorke!
He pretty much speaks like he is buying a croissant. Twenty four-seven.
Unfortunately, my hormones are that of an eighteen year old girl and the fact that he annoys me doesn’t stop me from getting excited every time he looks at me. Is that crazy? Pathetic is more like it.
The other day, I was out in the hall when he saw me. He then did something simple,yet primal and sexual.
He looked me up and down. But not just that, his eyes dragged across my body in slow motion, letting me see that he was observing every inch of me. Even his eyes darkened with lust. The boy knew exactly what he was doing. And the amount of guts he had to have to assess me as if I wasn’t his teacher or his senior but a girl he wanted to rip the clothes off of and drag off to a cave somewhere was incredible.
I should have been indignant. How dare he?
I am sorry to all my feminist readers (if I have any). I was not. I felt a bit uncomfortable, sure. My status as a teacher has suddenly diminished and I felt completely vulnerable, like a high school girl would feel… No matter the fact that he is five years younger than me. And I will be honest – that raw, primal gaze got my heart beating extremely fast.
Sure, Francois is a good looking guy. Sure, he knows it and flaunts it. But he tapped into something many women in North America are not used to getting anymore. And that is the honest, sexual, no excuses gaze from a man. It is not “Heyyy, girl, yo lookin sexay!” from a car speeding 60 miles per hour. It is not grinding from the back (does anyone actually do that anymore?) It is definitely not trying to appear less invested than the girl is.
It just is. The sexual gaze. The sign of interest. The intrigue. The lust at its basic form.
I don’t know about the rest of the girls in North America or the girls who are reading this, but I am almost sure they will agree with me here. We all want a quality guy. Someone who doesn’t hit on every girl, someone who treats you with respect, blah blah. I want that too.
But unlike French. Italian and Argentinian girls or even the girls residing in places like Miami, we are not used to the constant sexual tension surrounding us. In Canada men try not to appear too invested, too interested, too obvious, too direct. They push down their natural instinct, not even to do something extreme like look a girl up and down, but to even look at her. And I mean REALLY look at her. Lock their eyes with her, flirt with a look, drag your gaze on, let her know you notice her.
Francois might be the example of the extreme. Yet he tells me (and I believe him)- girls come up to me. I do not know vy? Zey jus do!
And why do you think that is?
Maybe they are so used to being ignored by the other men, that they yearn for a sign of male appreciation. Even if it is as vulgar as an assessment from head to toe. After this long, tedious, cold winter where we seemed to freeze over emotionally, we all need the scent of intrigue and possibility in the air.
No, you don’t need to put on a fake French accent. You just need to focus your gaze, show real interest and not worry that she might not feel the same. That’s her choice. Your choice is to be a real man or a lame guy who yells after a woman from the safety of a moving car.
Which one gets the girl?